The first time I went to a swingers club I was terrified. I had no clue how my partner and I would:. Instead, we got the lay pun intended of the land, and ended up doing each other in a room full of other people doing it while doing our best to act as if we totally did this as often as brushing our teeth. Before that first trip, I imagined the club would be one ginormous bed covered with a massive pile of writhing bodies. With many couples, you can tell whose idea it was to come.
One person will be looking around excitedly making eye contact or watching others getting it on, while the other will be intensely focusing on their partner, doing their best to forget they are having sex in a semi-public place. In best-case scenarios, both parties fulfill a shared fantasy of expanding their sexual network. In many real-life scenarios however, especially among first-timers, one party is more stoked than the other.
If you want to play with a couple or more, always make sure all relevant parties want this as well before diving in. For this reason, single women often get a substantial discount on the cover charge, if they have to pay at all. Most clubs allow them to attend only once a week, if that, and at a substantial premium.
On these nights, the clubs can be sausage fests: great odds for the single, horny unicorn looking for a solitary mate, but bad odds for the single sausages. At the end of the night, I had mascara streaking down my face, some serious bedhead, and my clothing had been off for hours.
The one exception is theme nights. Costumes make great ice-breakers and in the super-charged sexual atmosphere of a swingers club most people need all the help making conversation they can get.
